Merry Christmas to all! I hope that everyone has had a wonderful Christmas weekend. I, for sure, enjoyed all of my time with my family and friends and loved ones. We are very blessed to have such great people in our lives and that is the most wonderful gift of all!
I have been incredibly busy, which is nothing new. But thought that I should take some time to provide some Surrogacy updates to you all. The baby is doing great! HE - yes...the last ultrasound verified that this little miracle inside of me is a BOY - is growing very well and is actually measuring one week bigger than scheduled. This doesn't change anything in regards to the due date; our due date is still May 1st. I believe that the couple is thinking of Gabriel or Tristin for the first name of the baby...I prefer Tristin - I think it's a great, strong name!
At the last ultrasound, it was also determined that I will need to have monthly ultrasounds until the baby is delivered. They found his right kidney to be a little dialated; meaning that it's not empting as it should be or that there may be a very small blockage. This is very common in pregnancies with boys and the babies normally end up correcting the issue on their own in utero or by the time they come into the world and pee on their own for the first time. The monthly ultrasounds will just monitor the kidney to ensure that it does not become larger or to see if the issue has corrected itself. If the issue corrects itself - the ultrasounds can stop. If the issue doesn't correct itself, then the baby will have to have an ultrasound once he's born and will need to see a pediatric urologist. We're keeping our fingers crossed that the baby corrects the issue on his own...however, if he doesn't we know that he will be just fine!
With all that said, this little man has began to move a ton. I was a little concerned because I didn't feel him flip-flopping around as much as I did with Tatum and Gavin. I found out in the ultrasound that the Placenta for this pregnancy is on top of the baby - so for me to feel him kicking he needs to kick through the placenta - which could be compared to a large pillow. Recently though, this little dude has been moving a ton which means that he's definitely a STRONG baby! The flip-flops of the baby have really brought more "emotion" to my pregnancy. When I feel the baby move, of course, my first instinct is to grab hold of my belly and just embrace the moment. Of course, this is what I did with my babies...but that's when I need to take a step back and remind myself that this isn't my baby - that this is ______ and _____ baby. Upon the baby moving, I do still grab my belly - but it's with an emotion that I'm holding my belly for the baby to feel the love of it's fathers. I, don't get me wrong, love this little boy inside of me - but it's a love that is not the same as what I felt for my own children growing inside of me. I think that this is something that only other Surrogate Mother's can explain or understand...because it is rather difficult to explain. You have to love what's growing inside of you, but not like it's your own, take care of it like it's your own, but it isn't your own. This is exactly why I'm so happy that I really prepared myself emotionally and physically before going into this experience....
When I hold my belly, I hold it and talk to it about the baby's daddies...not about myself or about Jeff or the boys...just about the family that he will come into once he is born. We have not "talked" to ______ and _____ via SKYPE since their November Visit and plan to talk to them next week via SKYPE. We have emailed a ton and I have sent them the most recent ultrasound pictures of their little baby. I try to explain every part of the pregnancy to them so that they can feel and experience the most "normal" pregnancy that they can...although they are not holding this baby inside of them - I want them to still experience what I am experiencing...so I try to be as verbal as possible.
Next appointments are 1/5 and 1/13 and I will provide more updates! Please have a very safe and Happy New Years...count your blessings and welcome in 2012 with new adventures!
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