26 Weeks - Ups and Downs

Well it's been just over a month since I last wrote.  On a fantastic note - if you don't hear from me it's mainly because everything is going very well and there's nothing much to write about.  Not saying that I only write when there is something to write about - but it's a lot easier to write when there's a story to tell...
Everything with the Surrogacy has been going very well.  Since my last update - I have had another ultrasound which did detect that the right Kidney of the baby is still enlarged or dilated.  Again, the doctors reassured me and I did my best to reassure ______ & ______ that this is a very common thing to happen in baby boys especially, and that in should clear up on it's own.  I have another ultrasound appointment at the end of February and the doctors told me that we should be able to tell at this ultrasound if the kidney will correct on its own or if we'll probably have to have a pediatric urologist come in to the hospital when the baby is born.  Our fingers are crossed that this peanut's kidney corrects on it's own - but I am confident that if he doesn't correct within my belly he will shortly after his arrival with his first pee!
I'm 7 months pregnant now - 10 weeks to go to make it to 37 weeks and 13 weeks to 40 weeks.  The pregnancy has truly flown by.  I think a lot of that has to do with this baby not being my own!  I'm sure that the pregnancy is taking FOREVER for ______ & ______.  The parents have decided to name the baby boy Tristan and we were able to choose a name for him as well, Jeff and I decided on Ryan as our boys have middle names of Ryan.  This way the baby always has a piece of us with him!  Tristan is moving a ton - Tatum, Jeff and I sit in bed at night and watch him wiggle in my belly.  We continue to explain to Tatum the baby is not ours and he understands completely that Tristan is ______ & _____'s and that when the baby comes out he will not be coming home with us.  But, I want Tatum to enjoy the time that Tristan is with us and while he is in my belly - so I think moments like when he's moving is a special thing for Tatum to experience.  Gavin still doesn't even realize a difference in me nor understands that there is a little baby in my belly.  It's really crazy - I really prepared myself well with the emotional aspect of Tristan not being my baby - I think it's amazing when he moves and I talk to him for his daddies BUT the feeling that I had when my babies moved in my belly is not at all the feeling that I feel when Tristan move.  Don't get me wrong - it's very hard not to be emotional about the whole thing - but for my sake, my families sake, the daddies sake and Tristan's sake - I think that the way I have been going through this pregnancy is just emotionally healthy!
We have had a little scare - last Wednesday I had to go to Labor and Delivery at the Hospital.  I woke up spotting and having cramps and they felt that I should be admitted to be watched.  The spotting was "old" but because it was accompanied with cramps it was something that they definitely needed to watch.  After examinations and ultrasounds it was determined that I was 1 cm dialated; however the inside of my cervix was still long and firm.  Therefore, I may be dialated 1cm on the outside - but Tristan is where he is supposed to be and the dialation is not affecting anything on the inside of my cervix.  They discharged me with modified bedrest meaning no heavy lifting, pelvic rest, no house cleaning, etc until my appointment on Monday morning.  Jeff has been so helpful in ensuring that I follow the modified bedrest rules - BELIEVE ME - I'm not the bedrest type of person!  I'm go, go, go ALL THE TIME...so this isn't an easy task for me.  I'm lucky to have the support of Jeff and my family during this time.  The hardest part about this short bedrest is not being able to lift up Gavin and Tatum - so we cuddle a ton on the couch and I can just keep my fingers crossed that I can start to lift and hold my babies again!!!  If I'm still experiencing some cramping when my appointment comes - the doctors will be doing some kind of swab test that will rule out any type of preterm labor - they doubt that I will go into preterm - but this extra test will just be an ease of mind.
So, now we await the appointment on Monday to take me off of bedrest and then at the end of Feb being able to see the little peanut who has gotten so big!  Thank you so much for following and please feel free to ask any questions that you may have...I love hearing from all of you!!!